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Handling divorce with integrity

If you know me well, you probably know what I’ve been going through for the last 7 years of my life. Ever since my divorce and the events that led to my decision, I have had to live with demonstrations of abject insanity.


If you are new to my page, here’s a quick recap. I went through hell after I decided to walk away from my abusive marriage. I had no money to retain my attorney so I leaned to represent myself with the help of a few kind friends. I was writing 27-page motions and making a case for myself while my ex-husband used one of the best attorneys in town without having to lift a finger.


I did not let any of this deter me because the safety and well-being of my kids were non-negotiable. When it comes to divorce, it always remains an open case as long as you have children. This means that I am still going through the ramifications of our separation, but it has been worth it because my children are truly thriving in an abuse-free environment, exceeding all expectations.


In hindsight, I am proud of the way my family and I have handled things over the years — meeting insanity with absolute integrity at every step, and I am sure we will continue to do so gracefully. We march on into every new day hoping that this too shall pass.

Ever since I started to tell my story here on social media, I have had fellow domestic abuse survivors and divorcees reach out to me for my insight and help. This makes me incredibly happy because it means more and more women are choosing to speak up for themselves and leave abusive situations that no longer serve them. It took me a lot of courage to do so myself.


If you or someone you know needs help with a domestic abuse situation, please feel free to reach out for help. My inbox is always open. You deserve a happy, healthy, holistic life and help is just around the corner.


I promise you, it won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.